THE
105th KHUTBAH DELIVERED AT AREA 10 JUMA’AT
MASJID ABUJA, BY YAHYA GARBA AL-YOLAWI, ON 3RD FEB 2017/ 5TH
JUMADA ULA 1438AH
TOPIC: DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HUSBAND &
WIFE IN ISLAM(1)
In the name of Allah
the Most Gracious the most Merciful
My dear respected brothers and sisters in
Islam, our last week’s Khutbah centered on Innovations of marriage and Today’s
sermon will discuss the topic:in Islam. Duties and responsibilities of husband
and wife in islam.
Islam as a religion is
very much concern with issues related to marriage and
what comes after marriage
agreement. In order to maintain peace and goodharmony among families, and between
husband and wife; Islam has prescribed certain duties and responsibilities to the
husbandand place certainduties and responsibilities on wife to balance the
equation and whenever those rights are neglected or violated a lots of chaos
and evils will find their way in to your life as husband or wife. Allah says:
“…And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to
what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and
authority]. And Allah is exalted in Might and Wise." [Quran 2: 228]
Some of the verses and ahadith on duties and
responsibilities of husband and wife includes:
1. Man
is the caretaker of his wife and household:
He is responsible for all her affairs and he would
going to be asked on that “Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah
has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their
wealth…” [Quran 4:34]
2. Obedience
It is an essential right of man over his wife to be
obeyed so long as his commands do not conflict or contradict the commands of
Allah, the Almighty, Allah’s Messenger
(SAW) and the general teachings and codes of ethics of Islam.
Allah Almighty Says in the same verse: "...But
if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever
Exalted and Grand.." [Quran 4:34]
3. Keeping
secret and privacy:
A Muslim wife must protect her husband’s secrets, privacies,
honor and dignity. She also must protect his wealth, children, finance,
belongings and other aspects of his household, as much as possible.
Allah Almighty Says in the same verse : "...So
righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what
Allah would have them guard..." [Quran 4:34]
Allah's Messenger
(SAW) said: "The wife is the guardian over the house of her husband
and his children." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
4.
Respect to husband:
And“If
I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to another person, I
could have commanded a woman to bow down (in obedience and respect, not in
worship) to her husband.” [Abu Daawood]
5. Meeting
his marital needs:
The wife should fear Allah at all times and be ready
to meet the needs of her husband, except in cases where it is not permitted to
Sharia (menses or post natal bleeding). At other times, she has no right to
refuse him.
Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: “If a husband calls
his wife to his bed, but she refused to fulfill the call (for any reason other
than a lawful one), which drives the man to become upset with his wife, then
angels will curse such a wife until she gets up in the morning.” [Al-Bukhari
and Muslim]
6. Seeking
his permission and approval
The wife must not leave the house except with her
husband's permission and approval. She must also lower her gaze, keep her voice
low, keep her hands from reaching out to anything evil and keep her tongue from
any lewd or foul speech. She also must not harm his children, parents or near
relatives.
This is because Allah Almighty has said "And abides
in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former
times of ignorance...." [Quran 33:33]
7. Your
voice and gaze
Allah Almighty also has said (what means):
"...Do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease
should desire, but speak with appropriate speech." [Quran 33:32]
In another verse, Allah Says: "And tell the
believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts
and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears
thereof..." [Quran 24:31]
8. The
best wife in the world:
Allah's Messenger
(SAW) said: "The best woman is the one who when you look at her,
you are pleased; when you order her, she obeys; if you are absent from her, she
guards herself and your property." [At-Tabarani]
9. Obeying
Husbands instructions:
Another right of the husband over his wife is that
the husband may ask his wife not do something, including, but not limited to
voluntary acts of worship, other than obligatory, which cause her to lessen the
time that her husband may have to enjoy her.
Allah’s Messenger (SAW) stated: “A wife is not
allowed to observe fast (other than fasting in the month of Ramadan, the
prescribed, unless she has his permission. She may not allow anyone to come
into his house, unless he permits.” [At-Tirmithi]
10. Husband
is agate way to paradise open it or close it:
It has been reported from Umm Salamah, the mother of
the believers, may Allah be pleased withher, that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“Any woman whose husband dies while he is pleased, happy and satisfied with her
(acts, attitudes and behavior) will enter Jannah (Paradise).”At-Tirmithi
Adding to above mentioned
11. Contentment:
Have to be
content with what brings husband and thank him. No need to be ungrateful to
your husband and talk about what is missing. You can thus provoke him to get
money from haram. On the contrary, you should take care and asking your husband
to bring in only the funds, earned through halal means. Do not compare him with
husbands of your sisters or girlfriends or what you see on the screen.
Remember, everyone has their flaws. If you'll thank you husband for even minor
gifts, then he will be pleased to do it more often. The husband needs to feel
importance in his family.
12. Saying
sorry and seeking for forgiveness:
If the husband
is not satisfied with his wife’s actions or done something wrong there is no
harm to say sorry and ask for forgiveness that will earn her more respect to
her husband.
13. Respecting
Husband’s parent and relatives:
The wife
should respect and honor the parents and relatives of the husband. Honor them
how to honor your parents. Be grateful for the fact that they raised your
husband.
14. The
wife is to be engaged in education of children. Be patient with them. Teach
them good morals and Islam. If a husband has children of former wife, they must
be well-treated.
These are but few items of the many rights that
Islam, the religion of truth, imposes upon those who commit themselves to
follow and practice it as a way of life. We vividly see that such rights, if
maintained properly, will lead a society to peace, happiness and tranquility.
A wife becomes more respected, adored, cared for,
highly needed and appreciated if she respects the rights of her husband, and
equally given the rights she is entitled for by Islam.
We ask Allah the most
High to continue to guard and protect our iman our family and general
muslimUmmah.AMEEN
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